It’s not our fault.
Most of my readers know me from facebook. I am in a number of groups there, and while I would love to list them all here, it would break some aspects of confidentiality for me to do so. What I see most often in the groups that I am a part of is: “part of this is my fault. If I had done this, or that, he/she wouldn’t have had the meltdown.” When you are dealing with a child that has a mental illness, things happen that are beyond our control. Even if said child is biological rather than adopted. I tell my readers here the same thing as what I tell those in my various groups. “It is not our fault.” Simply words really. Unless you directly caused the trauma that made your child the way he or she is, it really is not your fault. As a parent,