The answer should be yes. Not "how can I get my loved one help?"

Tag Archives: lies

It was all a lie

10-inconvenienceDavid wants desperately to be trusted.  He wants us to believe him.

On Friday, he came home from school all excited because he was voted onto the student council at his school.

Today, he informs us that it was all a lie.  Nothing was true.

So i have confirmation emails going out to his school.

I want to believe him, but if he will lie about something as innocuous as student council, what else will he lie about?

Since the therapist left, he has been slowly degrading in his mental state.  Behaviors are increasing.  Not sure what that is about.  The therapist did take him for a walk, and according to him, was asking if he had any concerns about living at home.

I want to believe what he says, but it is difficult.

Soon, he will be in bed, asleep and we can start a new day tomorrow.

Wish him luck.

What do you want to hear?

Well.

Just got off the phone with a social worker from the hospital where David is.

I had to explain what “the boys hide in their rooms to feel safe from David” means.

David told staff that he tells me things like “if you like, I can stab you with a knife” because he thinks that is what I want to hear.

Why would I “want” to hear something like that?

If he tells me things that he thinks I want to hear, wouldn’t it stand to reason that he would do the same thing in the mental health unit?

Don’t get me wrong, we have and have had some pretty incredible social workers helping with David’s care.  But once in a while… you have to wonder.

The social worker repeatedly informed me that they are an acute care facility and that we should make more use of the safe beds.  Trouble is, safe bed won’t accept him if he is voicing homicidal urges.

If he is confronted he can become aggressive.  In the past he has become aggressive.  First step is verbal, then comes clenching fists, then comes…  you get the idea.  So do I go around town warning people not to confront him?  How does that help David?  If anything, it makes it easier for him to do illegal things.  Because the rules in place are stupid, at least according to David.  He should be able to do what ever he wants when he wants to.

Then she asked me the all important question of the day.  “are you exploring the legal system to get him help?”

It is my belief that there needs to be a fundamental change in the way mental health is treated in our country. the justice system is not an appropriate place for treatment. we can build more prisons, but we can’t build more facilities for treatment of mental health issues. Why is that?

 

 

lies I tell you, all lies

mediumDavid can switch between thinking he is the smartest person on the planet, or one of the dumbest.   And I use dumbest literally.

There are times when he acts as though he has lost all mental faculties that he has, yet other times if goes to the extreme, and he acts like he is the only one who knows anything.

And sass…

So we got notes from the hospital regarding his stay.

He evidently told staff that the reason he was placed there is because he was terrorizing people in Walmart with a hand knife.   He goes on at length about it.  How 911 was called and dad was given the option to either have the police take him to the hospital or to do it himself.

David, of course, denies having said any such thing.

So.  I explained to him what happens when we lie to people.  Especially to people in the mental health unit.

He thinks that i am stupid for believing that he would say anything of the sort.  When David speaks, a majority of the time, it is a lie.  Very rarely does he say anything that can be believed without a lot of prodding. So we do a lot of, “let me verify that.”

I told him, I believe that he is anything but stupid.