Tag Archives: African American

Pending Change of Placement

Change of Placement.What happens if… David has been in a facility placement since October of 2015.  Now he is nearing the end of his time at the current facility.  Plans are to transition to another facility when a bed is available. We wanted him to finish out the current school year in his current placement.  So placement change will come in the next 6 weeks or so. Interesting enough, his certificate of need (insurance authorization) expires at the same time.  So this post is a what happens if… or How can Change of Placement be successful if options aren’t available? What happens if a bed is not available and the certificate of need is denied? The next placement is a step down from his current facility in an effort to ultimately return David to our family home.  At present, while we have had successful day passes, no one in the

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Traditional vs. Non-Traditional Families

Last week, someone asked me if I was David’s grandfather.  This in itself isn’t a bad thing.  In the past when people have questioned David’s parentage, I have simply said that he is adopted.  Which is true. What is wrong with the idea that a white person would have an African-American son? Or even the other way, what is wrong with the idea that an African-American would have a white son? What business is it of theirs? I could see being concerned if the child was in distress, showed signs or behaviors of abuse.  But you won’t see that with my son. Recently, a friend was asked how much her son cost. “How much did he cost?”  I am perplexed. I have no idea what the cost of birth is, but what business is it of another person?   I could see if the interest involved their wanting to adopt a

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Generalizations, how they don’t help

We have this saying in the Autism community.  “If you have seen a child with Autism, you have seen A child with Autism.” You have seen one child.  Why one? Because no two kids are exactly alike, including twins. So why would it be any different for an adopted child? David is adopted.  David has, among other things, Reactive Attachment Disorder. I am adopted, I can see similarities in my behaviors as a child to David, just not as severe. I know of a couple of other people, both children and adults, who are adopted.  You know what?  Unless you know that they are adopted, you can’t tell. It isn’t like they have this tattoo on their arm, like a bar code or something that says “adopted”. Why do I bring this up? If you have seen one child that is adopted, one person that is adopted, you have see

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