What do you do when you need to balance the mental illness of one child against the wellness of a whole family? Do you allow the mentally ill and potentially very violent child to return home? Or do you push for another residential placement?
Today we received notice of a conference with a Judicial Referee regarding two of the charges that David has accumulated this summer. The others include multiple charges of unruly, forgery, and theft of property. I shared it with David, because until now he seems to think that he is immune to action against him for his actions toward others. I explained that at 14, he could go to juvenile jail. And that if he went to juvenile jail at 14, there is a chance that he could end up spending the rest of his life in a prison of some kind. Mostly due to the fact that when people upset him, he lets his anger take over, and doesn’t stop until the anger burns itself out. Imagine trying to corral that type of behavior in a prison environment with a bunch of other people who may or may not share
David is coming home today. Yesterday he shared that he was thinking about killing himself. Today he denied telling me that. Today he is coming home. I expressed my frustration as kindly as I could to the social worker. She claims to understand. But does she? Does she understand what it is to fear becoming a statistic in the news at the hands of a child? Does she understand that we are afraid? That we are concerned about the safety of not just mom and I, but the other kids in our home? She made some recommendations. We should call the Sheriff any time we don’t feel safe. We should call Child Protective Services and see if they can help. (this means giving up custody) I promised David we would never give up. She then said that we need to utilize the safe bed before we even consider bringing him