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Section 1 – About a father

Thinking of my family at this late hour.  It is 1am here.  2am back home. I am on vacation and can’t sleep.  All but one family member is at home in Casa de Familia.

I was working a night job delivering newspapers.  One night I happened to deliver to a business that had an old friend working.  I had worked with this person in a previous job when I was still in high school.  I wanted to date her more than I wanted anything in this life. I wanted to show her that men are not all assholes like her ex-husband and the other riffraff that she went out with.  One night, she invited me to a Christmas party at a hotel with some friends.

It so happens that I had my daughter that weekend.  What better way to woo a woman than to introduce a small child.  So I showed up at the pool party with my daughter.  Spent some time frolicking in the pool, sat in the hot tub.  The woman I had designs on asked me for a favor.  Actually, her girlfriends asked me for a favor.  Seems like one of them had an employee Christmas party to attend that evening.  Would I be willing to take her to the party?

The offer included free babysitting services.

Being the gentleman that I considered myself to be, I agreed.  Of course, I was thinking that this would show my intended that I was a good guy that she could trust.  I went home to change.

Later at the party, I discovered many people that I knew.  Mostly family.  But I discovered one very important thing.

 Want to read more? Part 2 is here.

Shoot, a laptop, and your teen’s attention

Now, I am sure that all of my readers have seen or heard the news report about the father, Tommy Jordan, who authored a video post on his daughter’s facebook wall titled “Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen.” and then posted the video on his daughter’s facebook wall.

I am not here to bemoan his actions, nor am I here to defend his daughter.  I am simply a parent with an opinion.  My opinion is this:  In the age of parent’s killing their children for the slightest disrespect and other reasons, was what Tommy Jordan did so bad?  Sure it might be considered over the top to take a .45 pistol and blow away a laptop in response to some nefarious post, but as a parent, I consider it my responsibility to monitor the activity of my juvenile children while they are online and in my house.  Let me say that again… It is my RESPONSIBILITY.  I gave them the computer, I pay for the Internet access, I pay for the house, I am responsible.  Because I am responsible, I reserve the right to look at anything on the computer that the kids use.

Now, once they leave home, their business is not my business.  Unless they are doing it in my home.

That said, I could think of a lot of other ways to get the attention of my child, but none of them would get their attention like Tommy Jordan did. Like Mr. Jordan said, if you have a father in IT, you would think that you would have sense to not do things like this again.

What do you think his daughter is thinking?  Or her friends?  Oh the shame…

Give me a break!  If you are in the wrong, you are in the wrong.  From what your father has said, you were disciplined for inappropriate activities before, so this should come as no surprise to you.

Here is a hint, I don’t pay my kids to do chores either.  How many parents do?

For those of you who haven’t seen the video…

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Day 9 ~ A long night, a short day, exhausted

David, our youngest was up and down most of the night with his cough.  Poor guy sounds like he is going to cough up a lung or something.  So I spent the night monitoring him to make sure he was ok.  Long night.  His breathing finally calmed around 5 am so I got to sleep a bit.

You forget how quickly 6:30 comes until the wife turns on the light so she can get dressed for work.  So I was up and about, got all of the kids off to school this morning, and then laid on the couch.  David woke up briefly, long enough to eat something so that he could take his morning pills, and some cough medicine.  Then he sacked out again.  So I snoozed as long as he was snoozing.  Had to lay some noise traps around his bed so that I would wake if he did.  (he can be sneaky, if he thinks he can get away with something, he will try.)

Four hours later, I am up and about, feeling more rested.  Coffee in one hand, shame it’s decaf, and a diet coke in the other.  Bring on the day!!!

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Completed the paperwork for requesting a Facilitated IEP.  We will see how that goes.

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I am thinking about writing an article about auto-immune disorders and how they affect men with special needs kids.  So if you have an auto-immune disorder, and you have special needs kids, and are willing to answer a few questions, please let me know.  You can send me your information through the contact us page.