It’s in the past. That is how David responds when we try to talk to him about the threats that he made toward that individual on facebook. “I don’t want to talk about it, because it’s in the past.” It was last Wednesday February 29. Just because it is in the past doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about it. He is not allowed to use computers. So he argued with his mom about using the iPad. So now he isn’t allowed to be in his room alone. Why? he steals and it is easier to keep an eye on him in the common areas rather than in his room. Why? He shares a room with his older brother and his older brother has a computer. So very frustrated. David managed to convince the hospital staff that he was an angel and didn’t get his medicine because mom and dad didn’t
So for what seems like the hundredth time, I had the talk with David, our 10 year old about how his behaviour will follow him for the rest of his life. Do I think I got through to him this time? Sadly, no, I don’t. This is the child who just got out of a residential facility, where he was placed in part because of his behaviour. I explained that there are worse places for him to be, and gave him specific examples. I talked about how when I was a kid, I was in trouble with the law and was taken from my home in handcuffs. Yes, even at the age that he is, they might not use handcuffs, but they could decide that this isn’t the proper environment for him. So the question is, how do we protect him from himself? When it is just him, and myself,
Each day moves forward without prompting. We start when the rest of the kids leave the house. 8am – four kids off to school. 8:30 breakfast and clean up 9:00 play time 9:30 exercise period 10:00 study math 10:30 break 11:00 spelling lessons 11:30 – 1 lunch 1pm grammar and reading. 1:30pm. done for the day For exercise we use games on the Wii. When it gets warmer, we will go outside. We also have an exercise bike. Three times a week, we try to have an outing of some kind. Go to the store, a cafe, bank or whatever. Our day varies depending on his temperament and how he is responding. Because of the severity of the ADHD, the above schedule is very flexible. Some days we might not get started until 11am and might get done at 1. We work when he is able to focus and function.