Category Archives: help

Identity issues

Since David’s placement I have experieced something of an identity crisis. For a long time our lives were all about him.  David did this. David did that. David needs to see his psychiatrist. David needs a different med. David assaulted so and so. David poisoned the dog. David took.  Somedays I am lost without him getting into things and causing trouble.  Other days I am so very thankful for the residential placement that he is in now. Today we are staffing David at the residential faciility. Maybe Tweet #fighting4answrs

Section 1 – About a father

Thinking of my family at this late hour.  It is 1am here.  2am back home. I am on vacation and can’t sleep.  All but one family member is at home in Casa de Familia. I was working a night job delivering newspapers.  One night I happened to deliver to a business that had an old friend working.  I had worked with this person in a previous job when I was still in high school.  I wanted to date her more than I wanted anything in this life. I wanted to show her that men are not all assholes like her ex-husband and the other riffraff that she went out with.  One night, she invited me to a Christmas party at a hotel with some friends. It so happens that I had my daughter that weekend.  What better way to woo a woman than to introduce a small child.  So I

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have i failed as a father?

I feel like a failure. My youngest son has hacked into his brother’s facebook account and threatened to kill someone. And then he lied about doing it, even when confronted by the evidence. How do I learn about this? The victim’s parents called the Sherrif. I don’t blame them. I blame myself. I blame my son. So tonight I am admitting my son to the mental health unit at the hospital. I don’t know what else to do. How do I protect him while protecting the rest of the family? Or protecting others in our community? I posted a note to the account, letting people know that it had been hacked. Mental illness is not an excuse for this kind of behavior. Tonight I had the opportunity to participate in a committee for our school district’s anti-bullying policy. And we talked about cyberbullying. I would be a hipocrite to not

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