Category Archives: Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)

have i failed as a father?

I feel like a failure. My youngest son has hacked into his brother’s facebook account and threatened to kill someone. And then he lied about doing it, even when confronted by the evidence. How do I learn about this? The victim’s parents called the Sherrif. I don’t blame them. I blame myself. I blame my son. So tonight I am admitting my son to the mental health unit at the hospital. I don’t know what else to do. How do I protect him while protecting the rest of the family? Or protecting others in our community? I posted a note to the account, letting people know that it had been hacked. Mental illness is not an excuse for this kind of behavior. Tonight I had the opportunity to participate in a committee for our school district’s anti-bullying policy. And we talked about cyberbullying. I would be a hipocrite to not

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just another manic monday

Well, David and I met with the respite care providers.  Nice family.  Mom and Dad seem to think a lot like us.  Neat this is that they have adopted a couple of kids as well.  So we are excited.  This should enhance David’s life by giving us a break from each other.  I made sure to let David know that he is still our son, but that this is just a place for him to take a break from our family. The case worker told him to think of it as his vacation home. We spent almost two hours in their home just talking. We talked about our challenges from the past year, about fighting the school district to ensure that David has access to an education in accordance with state and federal law.  The mom is studying for a degree in early childhood education. On the way home, David

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say it again, with feeling

I find myself repeating everything I say to David.  Don’t, Don’t, Don’t do that. Don’t do this… Don’t touch the computer without permission, don’t touch the tv without permission.  Don’t touch the Wii without permission. You are not allowed on facebook.  Over and Over and Over again.  Yet, each morning I get up and when I check my email I find that he has attempted to access facebook, or he has attempted to access yahoo, or… He was born with a traumatic brain injury.  I understand that.  He has obsessive compulsive disorder, he is oppositional defiant, he has ADHD, he has facets of Autism, he has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, he has Reactive Attachment Disorder.  And apparently, he has no memory. I don’t know.  I am just so frustrated.  I wish that I had a magic wand that I could wave which would allow me to remedy all of the issues

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