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and so ends the great debate

Our youngest son David loves to argue. Everything for him is something that can be debated. Tell him that he needs to clean up his kleenex, and he will tell you why he can’t do it, and he might use something you said yesterday to him as an excuse. Tell him he needs to eat his supper before he has a snack, and he will tell you that he ate his supper and then will tell you what he ate for lunch. When you ask him who made this supper, he would say, so and so made it for me at lunchtime. Well, since it is 6:30 in the evening, you need to eat a regular meal before you have a snack. For discipline, one of the few things that works is to have him cover his head. Normally we don’t keep him under there for more than about 10

Parent Teacher Conferences. fear or bravery?

I don’t dread parent teacher conferences for any of my kids. Mostly because we keep such close touch with their teachers that we aren’t surprised when conferences roll around. This doesn’t occur with our youngest though since we are home schooling him. Before this Spring, the teachers would quake in fear when they saw my wife and I coming. Mostly because we had to pull teeth, nails and hair to get things that they should have provided without a fight. In the case of our youngest, we are still fighting, but feel that his needs are better met with us through home school. Sadly, he is missing so much by not being in public school. He misses his friends, he misses interaction with other adults, he misses PE, music, and what not. But he doesn’t miss getting assaulted on a regular basis, he doesn’t miss being restrained, he doesn’t miss

how do you do it each day?

Each day moves forward without prompting. We start when the rest of the kids leave the house. 8am – four kids off to school. 8:30 breakfast and clean up 9:00 play time 9:30 exercise period 10:00 study math 10:30 break 11:00 spelling lessons 11:30 – 1 lunch 1pm grammar and reading. 1:30pm. done for the day For exercise we use games on the Wii. When it gets warmer, we will go outside. We also have an exercise bike. Three times a week, we try to have an outing of some kind. Go to the store, a cafe, bank or whatever. Our day varies depending on his temperament and how he is responding. Because of the severity of the ADHD, the above schedule is very flexible. Some days we might not get started until 11am and might get done at 1. We work when he is able to focus and function.