Just received a call from the new facility. I could hear David in the background. Full breakdown screaming. Evidently he is in crisis right now. Have to find out how they define crisis, but it sounds like one of the other kids in the facility was having a rough time, and David was feeding off that boy’s behavior. So as a courtesy the staff called to let me know about it, and what their response was going to be. Before the staff could explain it to me, the call ended. When they called back, it was explained that David did something to the phone. At any rate, by the time the call ended, David was in time out, and well on his way to being restrained. I told the staff to call anytime they needed to do so. Imagine what he will be like when they start changing his meds.
We had our first conference call with the team from the new facility yesterday. A full team is involved. Care team, medical team, education, and equally important, the family. Once we got through the initial introductions, focus was directly on medication. Like mom and I, they believe that the least amount of medication necessary to do the job is the best way to go. However… While I know medication is not a cure, I also know what David is like when the meds aren’t enough to maintain even the slightest level of stability. At 12, he has been on adult doses for most of his life of all of these medications. It is something that we have struggled with since we started with medication when David was 4. Both David’s care coordinator and I warned them that, while we are in favor of fewer meds, they need to be aware
David called. Said he was getting ready to go swimming, and wanted to know if we had sent his life jacket yet. I explained that we just got home, and hadn’t had a chance. I asked him how he liked the place so far. Seems to like it just fine. He said that in some ways it is better than North Dakota. Since he also wanted to talk to mom, he said he would call back. When he called back and talked to mom, he wanted to know when he gets to come home. Said he was being good. It isn’t about him being good for a day or two. I don’t know what the magic answer is for him to return home. I wish I did. Related articles David is in the new facility. (whynotfathers.com) A win, no matter how you look at it (whynotfathers.com) Tweet #fighting4answrs