Category Archives: adhd

Thoughts – control – arguments and what not

I have been torn.  Since David has come home, we have had quite a few good days.  The bad days, holy.  It is trying on the whole family when they happen. So I am going to take a page from another parent of a child a lot like David. No confrontations.  If he is spoiling for an argument, or a fight, we will just stop everything involving him.  No giving in.  By pursuing the fight, we are giving him what he wants.  That is attention. Instead, we will continue what we have been doing.  Praise ALL of the positive behaviors and actions. It won’t be easy. We have tried the direct confrontation.  We have tried discipline, taking away privileges and that type of thing. He may lose one privilege, but he won’t lose them all.  He needs to be able to burn off that energy.  Not letting him do so

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I don’t understand

Something struck me this morning.  My son was in a psychiatric facility for more than a year. He was discharged when Medicaid decided to stop funding his care. No transition plan was in place the day my son was released to our care. We have made the best of the last two weeks and I think we have done fairly well.  David has done fairly well. Not one call from any of the staff at the facility to see how we are faring.  To see how David is faring. We have gotten packets of files and documents but no after care or follow up. I feel like David was abandoned by parts of the system that are supposed to help.  I don’t depend on the Government. I depend on people. We will continue to do everything we can do.  We will continue to love our son.  We will continue to

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So Far, So Good, Now …

It is too early to tell if all of my worry from the last two weeks was for not. However, so far so good.  It is an adjustment for sure, but no less an adjustment for him as the rest of the family. I am used to having the house to myself all day long, and now I have this teenager running around. Today we had a second IEP meeting about him.  On Monday he will start half days in a day program in a nearby city.  School will transport him to the facility, I will pick him up. This is two fold, one, they can provide the class size and supports that he needs.  In the afternoon, I can work with therapists for various appointments.  We won’t be able to recreate every aspect of residential care, but we ought to be able to create some of it. One thing

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