Category Archives: family support

Section 1 – About a father

Thinking of my family at this late hour.  It is 1am here.  2am back home. I am on vacation and can’t sleep.  All but one family member is at home in Casa de Familia. I was working a night job delivering newspapers.  One night I happened to deliver to a business that had an old friend working.  I had worked with this person in a previous job when I was still in high school.  I wanted to date her more than I wanted anything in this life. I wanted to show her that men are not all assholes like her ex-husband and the other riffraff that she went out with.  One night, she invited me to a Christmas party at a hotel with some friends. It so happens that I had my daughter that weekend.  What better way to woo a woman than to introduce a small child.  So I

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Life, Liberty and the use of a computer

It’s in the past. That is how David responds when we try to talk to him about the threats that he made toward that individual on facebook. “I don’t want to talk about it, because it’s in the past.” It was last Wednesday February 29.  Just because it is in the past doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about it.  He is not allowed to use computers.  So he argued with his mom about using the iPad.  So now he isn’t allowed to be in his room alone. Why? he steals and it is easier to keep an eye on him in the common areas rather than in his room.  Why?  He shares a room with his older brother and his older brother has a computer. So very frustrated.  David managed to convince the hospital staff that he was an angel and didn’t get his medicine because mom and dad didn’t

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have i failed as a father?

I feel like a failure. My youngest son has hacked into his brother’s facebook account and threatened to kill someone. And then he lied about doing it, even when confronted by the evidence. How do I learn about this? The victim’s parents called the Sherrif. I don’t blame them. I blame myself. I blame my son. So tonight I am admitting my son to the mental health unit at the hospital. I don’t know what else to do. How do I protect him while protecting the rest of the family? Or protecting others in our community? I posted a note to the account, letting people know that it had been hacked. Mental illness is not an excuse for this kind of behavior. Tonight I had the opportunity to participate in a committee for our school district’s anti-bullying policy. And we talked about cyberbullying. I would be a hipocrite to not

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