It’s a sad reality. Our son David is mentally ill. I know it’s been a while since I last posted. So much has happened. On Feb 3, as I was driving into the city for a medical appointment, I received a call from the facility where David was. “If you don’t come and get him by 1pm, you will be charged with abandonment.” said the Clinical Director. I tried to explain that I was on my way to a medical appointment, 100 miles south of the facility. I explained that I had made arrangements to pick him up at 4pm. Not good enough. I was given the ultimatum, either pick up your son by 1pm, or be charged. As a result, I cancelled my appointment, turned around and went to pick him up. You see, he is well. Or so they believed. That’s why his peers want to kill him.
When I question something relating to David’s care, it isn’t me questioning you or your integrity. In most cases, I am not questioning your company or organization policy. I am questioning the system of care that forces archaic and anarchistic ideas on a population who doesn’t understand why things are the way they are. So when you say “this is the way it is”, my first question is going to be one of two things… “Why?” “How can we change it?” In most cases, there should be no need to relinquish custody to get mental health care. Am I saying that I am against giving custody? No. I am just saying that it shouldn’t be the only way to get him care. what is so magical about custody when needing mental health care? Why does giving custody to the state grant the appearance of more or better care? We will
Last summer we heard from the psychiatrists, “in order to get the level of care he needs, you need to give up custody.” I asked then, “why?” Again this month we are hearing “will you give up custody to do this… ” and the answer isn’t easy. It is something that we have struggled with. Yes, in the event that was the only way he could get the care he needs, we would do that. Giving up custody doesn’t mean that we aren’t his parents. It is the next level of care. I have a question though. If he can access all these wonderful services while in the custody of the state, or county, why can’t he access those same services when he is in our custody? What is so special about state custody? He has already been abandoned once. Why would we want to make him feel like it