Category Archives: behaivor issues

say it again, with feeling

I find myself repeating everything I say to David.  Don’t, Don’t, Don’t do that. Don’t do this…

Don’t touch the computer without permission, don’t touch the tv without permission.  Don’t touch the Wii without permission. You are not allowed on facebook.  Over and Over and Over again.  Yet, each morning I get up and when I check my email I find that he has attempted to access facebook, or he has attempted to access yahoo, or…

He was born with a traumatic brain injury.  I understand that.  He has obsessive compulsive disorder, he is oppositional defiant, he has ADHD, he has facets of Autism, he has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, he has Reactive Attachment Disorder.  And apparently, he has no memory.

I don’t know.  I am just so frustrated.  I wish that I had a magic wand that I could wave which would allow me to remedy all of the issues that he was born with.

This morning, he had a meltdown as the rest of the kids were leaving for school.  Absolutely refused to listen to reason, and went off the scale because he couldn’t have things his way.

Now we are off to meet with the respite care provider.  Hopefully this meeting goes well.

Any ideas on how I can help him remember what he can and can’t do?

buttons, buttons, who has the buttons?

Well, I am either looking for my remote control or I am trying to figure out how to prevent our youngest from pushing every button he can find to anger everyone in the house in one night.

He is ten years old.  He created a facebook account, and we figured that as long as it was monitored, we would be able to keep it under control.  We set the password and told him that an adult needed to log him in to it.  He then started resetting the password for the account.  So I changed the email address associated with the account and told him that one more time would result in the denial of access to facebook.

Simple right?  Nope.  He created another account.  Took away his computer privileges for everything except school work and he started using his brother’s computer.  We told his brother that if David isn’t allowed to use any computer’s so he started locking his computer with the password that we setup.

Simple right?  Nope.  He stole a laptop from his mom.  Yep.  Mom was given a netbook for work and he stole it from our bedroom, which was locked.  Yep.  no idea how he got in there.

So now, we have to redo the lock in our bedroom door. (used to use a skeleton key which he has figured out how to pick)

Time to use the old hasp and padlock option.

 

if I pull any more hair out, i’ll be bald

David is in full form tonight.  He is all wound up and attention needy.  Which means that he will do whatever it takes to get attention. Positive or Negative.

Now, some people say “ignore him”.

Easy for you to say, you don’t live with him 24/7.  When he gets like this the other kids hide, and everyone is just along for the ride.

So I am trying to keep him busy.  As part of that, I grant him amnesty for cleaning all of the stuff out of his play area that doesn’t belong to him.  Since he has a pretty serious issue with taking things that don’t belong to him, we can end up with quite a pile of stuff on the kitchen table.

Oh, wait, I hear his brother crying out David’s name in a way that can only make your nerves quake.  Time to mediate the fight.

If you need birth control, we will have you over for dinner one night, that should fix that problem.  In all seriousness though, even with the benefit of his many blessings, I love him dearly.  Just some days it gets to be a bit much.