Category Archives: adoption

Embrace the abilities he does have

David came into our lives before we even considered adoption.  In fact, we originally were going to do foster care for kids like David.  This was long before we knew about the mental health issues that he has been diagnosed with.  He was special needs because of the way he was born, addicted to drugs.  And because of his race. He was special to us because he was loveable.  He had a smile as bright as the sun and a ready laugh.  We had an in home daycare at the time, and occasionally did day care for his foster family. If you look at pictures from his first birthday, we are there. Our whole family was. When our home study was completed, we were told that we were approved for adoption and shown a portfolio of children that were available in our state.  Kids of all ages.  We had been

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Every Parent of a Mentally Ill Child Has This Fear

I don’t know how it is in most families, I just know in mine, this is our fear.  That David will stop responding to his meds, and then be seen as a threat by law enforcement. Once he turns 18, we will have little ability to ensure that he takes his medications, unless we get court ordered guardianship of an adult.  In honesty, as much as I love David, I don’t know that I could do this for the rest of my life, so once he turns 18, I will advocate for a guardian from outside of the family. There are reasons for this. I am not in the best of health, and my health will continue to deteriorate despite the best of efforts of my medical team and I. If life with David is difficult for the kids when he is a youngster, and they want or feel a

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Reactive Attachment Disorder

I found this video through a group I belong to on facebook.  It explains so much about children like our son David. Not every adopted child will be afflicted with this disorder, though quite a few are.  I did not create the video.  I don’t claim ownership of the video.  I am merely sharing content with my readers. Tweet #fighting4answrs