The answer should be yes. Not "how can I get my loved one help?"

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assault reported by David

I received a call from David’s teacher.  evidently he was being offensive and sent to time out.  When he didn’t stay, they took him back.

He threw a chair at his teacher or one of the staff, and then headbutted someone.  In addition to his threatening to kill them, he also was kicking and hitting.

For those of you who are new to my blog, David is in a residential facility for behaviors like this, as well as stealing.

So because this is the second time this has happened in as many weeks, he has out of school suspension tomorrow, which is what David wants.

A bit later at the end of the day, I received a report from the social worker who staffs David’s cottage.

David had a scratch by his ear and a mark on his ribs.  David was asked if what happened and he indicated that the teacher hit him and kicked him.  David was then asked if he wanted to press charges against the person.

His response?  Yes.

So the cottage social worker contacted the police and a complaint was made.

I made the recommendation that the police needed to be sure to talk to David’s other caseworkers to ensure that they get the full picture of David.

I am not saying that someone didn’t hit or scratch David, but I know my son.

And now that he knows he can press charges against people for things like this, I imagine the police will be regular visitors there.

I am wondering why the school at this facility doesn’t have cameras in the halls.  Heck, given the nature of the students who attend, I would push for cameras in the classroom as well.

So David has a five day weekend from school, which I am sure he will love since he doesn’t like school.

The last time that he attacked a teacher, he had in school suspension.

Upcoming feature – Newsletter

Starting January 1, 2013, (yes we know, it is hard to imagine) we will be adding a newsletter to our blog.  If you would like to sign up for it, you can sign up when you leave a comment on any page.

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Things that will include:

– a list of that months blog posts by date and title.
– tips for stay at home dads
– site of the month feature
– product reviews that we have tried out ourselves.  Every product is tested in our home before we write a review about it.
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– one book review.

Thank you for making our first year a success!!

Carl

Placement sometimes feels wrong..

Is it wrong for me to have moments where I relish the concept that David is in placement?

Today for example.  My bride and I went to see David and spent two hours visiting him.  Afterward, we went out for supper and then we went shopping.  When David was at home, we never would have been able to do that.

He was too volatile to leave at home with anyone except his aunt.  And we couldn’t expect her to come and visit every time we needed to go to the store, or wanted to go out to eat.

It isn’t as though we were never able to go to the store, but often a trip to the store involved a pat down of David’s pockets before entering and before leaving.  When he would be in the psych unit at the hospital, we would have respite, as well as when he was with his respite provider or mentors.

So why do I feel bad for enjoying today, and not worrying about David while I was doing it? Not worrying about what David had shoved in his pockets, or down his pants.

I enjoyed the time with my bride.