Fighting for Answers | Monthly Archives: March 2015March 2015

what do you do when…

your child is manic and goes running down the street into traffic yelling, just kill me? We had the start of an episode tonight. I ignored it. I walked away. I turned the other cheek. Every time I refused to acknowledge the behavior, the behavior escalated. David started spraying something that we later learned was “just water” at his brothers, the pets… and but we didn’t know that for sure. He has cut himself in the past. He has sprayed the animals with bug spray. So I called the Sheriff. Thankfully, he was able to help deescalate the situation. Things are better now. To say that I was, and still am very concerned about his safety is an understatement. But, we are safe now. I did discover one of his noon meds (for mood control and stability) laying on the floor of the van. Which tells me that he missed

Thoughts – control – arguments and what not

I have been torn. Since David has come home, we have had quite a few good days. The bad days, holy. It is trying on the whole family when they happen. So I am going to take a page from another parent of a child a lot like David. No confrontations. If he is spoiling for an argument, or a fight, we will just stop everything involving him. No giving in. By pursuing the fight, we are giving him what he wants. That is attention. Instead, we will continue what we have been doing. Praise ALL of the positive behaviors and actions. It won’t be easy. We have tried the direct confrontation. We have tried discipline, taking away privileges and that type of thing. He may lose one privilege, but he won’t lose them all. He needs to be able to burn off that energy. Not letting him do so

he got caught stealing vehicle keys

Got caught in a lie. He took keys to one of our vehicles to school with him. Was notified by the school that he had them. I asked him for them, and he claimed that he didn’t have them. So I told him he needed to give them to me. He then went to the pickup, opened the door, made a show of looking for the keys and then saying “here they are, I never took them to school, they have been here all this time.” Then he said that so and so from the school was lying. I refused to get into an argument with him. So I took away bicycle privileges and told him he could go outside to shoot hoops… He didn’t like that the idea that one minute I was taking privileges and then I was giving them back. Called me all kinds of names. I